“Hurrah! I did the thing I feared the most. Excuse me while I cheer. Now here I stand a stronger soul and all I’ve lost is fear.” — Anonymous
Several years ago a wise person gave me the above quote and I’ve looked at it every day since. Lots of wisdom in this one simple statement.
“I did the thing I feared the most.” Before I can do the thing I fear the most, I have to see the thing I fear the most. So, how can I see the thing I fear the most? Here are some clues.
You may find yourself saying something like this: “Oh, it really doesn’t matter, anyway.” “I really didn’t want to do/have/say that.” “It’s not important.”
Or, you may find yourself sort of habitually angry over an issue or at a certain person. Just know that habitual anger always sits on top of fear.
OK, let’s say you have discovered a fear you hold. Now, you are at a choice point. Are you going to do the thing you fear the most? Doing it looks like this:
You say what is true for you even though you know the other person may not like what you have to say and you are fearful of their reaction.
Even though an action you may want to take seems fearful, you find your courage and take the action in the face of your fears – leaving a relationship or a job.
When you are angry, you have the courage to see your fear that is fueling the anger.
Consider doing the thing you fear the most. And, remember, all you’ll lose is fear.