“Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I’m not perfect – and I don’t live to be –
but before you start pointing fingers . . . make sure your hands are clean!” — Bob Marley
Bob Marley (1945 – 1981) was a Jamaican singer-songwriter and musician best known for his reggae records. He remains the most widely known and best selling performer of reggae music. He died of cancer in 1981.
I love the above Bob Marley quote.
“Who are you to judge the life I live?” It’s so important we realize we are each very different people living in completely different worlds. We each create our world in our thoughts. We decide arbitrarily what is right, good, respectable, honorable, joyful, you fill in the rest. And, mostly, we don’t even decide. We are programmed to believe a certain way – by well meaning parents, teachers, friends, lovers. Also, the media, religion and society generally.
It’s what makes intimate relationships such a trip. Two people coming from two completely different worlds attempting to maintain whatever authenticity they have and to coexist in peace.
“I know I’m not perfect – and I don’t live to be. . .” Good for you, Bob! I’m not sure I can add much to that. Years ago I had a t-shirt I wore until it fell apart. It said: “I may not be perfect, but parts of me are excellent!” I loved it.
“. . . but before you start pointing fingers . . . make sure your hands are clean!” Why do we judge and criticize? It goes like this. I meet you and for some reason I feel less than. I want to feel at least equal to or more than. One way I can move from less than to more than is to criticize you and make you smaller. If I can make you smaller, now I just got bigger. I went from less than to more than in one simple move – criticism – pure magic!
So, anytime we find ourselves criticizing or judging it’s a really big message – to us, about us. What part of me feels small right now? What part of me feels less than in this situation? Once you can see the part that’s feeling bad, or isolated, or unloved – now you are in a position to heal. To discover the real magic – diversity – equality – acceptance – oneness.