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It seems to me Thich Nhat Hanh is right on. We do, sometimes, prefer our familiar suffering over the unknown of initiating change in our lives. Here’s what that might look like.
A classic example is relationship. How many of us are in relationships we don’t find nourishing? We feel we give more than we truly want to give to the other. The flip side is we never feel we are receiving. Something is out of balance. Most relationships go through times like this, it’s when it becomes the norm that problems arise. If I’m always feeling empty, depleted somehow, then I don’t feel seen, loved or nourished. Close on the heels of this feeling is suffering.
Did you ever wonder why it’s so difficult to have a real – here’s what I’m feeling – kind of conversation with the person or people closest to you? Why do we resist asking for change in an out of balance relationship? Maybe it is because we “prefer our familiar suffering over the unknown of initiating change in our lives.”
This same idea applies to our jobs, careers, commitments, you can add to the list.
So, initiating change. It sounds like such a simple thing. Actually, it is a big deal for most of us. My Daddy always called it our “hound dog trail.” Like a hound dog we tend to walk the same trails over and over, even after they become the most difficult way to walk.
It’s Spring. The whole cosmos is supporting renewal, transformation and change. Look around your life. Where are your hound dog trails? Where are you suffering? Consider making changes. Face what needs to be faced. Say what needs to be said. Do what needs to be done. Life is so expansive, free, joyful and peaceful on the other side. “I’ll meet your there” as Rumi teaches us.