Change is so difficult for most of us. It’s easy and sometimes comforting to have routines. We get up at the same time, eat at the same time, pretty much see the same people during our day. Our leisure time has a sameness quality to it. Most of us look forward to vacations – a few days to leave our routines behind. See a new place, meet new people, do different things. Normally, vacations are thought to be very relaxing, even if we actually do more. We find the difference exhilarating. We leave the stresses of life behind for a few days.
Isn’t it interesting we seek the change vacation brings and yet resist change in our daily routines?
A quick Google search will present endless articles and books designed to help us go through the stressful process of change. And, it can be stressful, no doubt about it. Socrates says: “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
Can it be that simple? Is that the secret wisdom? Just get busy – focus all our energy on building the new. In my own life, that really works. Whatever we give energy to – grows. If we stay focused on the old – a habit, a lifestyle, a job, a relationship – we are energizing the very thing we are intending to change.
The next time you are faced with a major change why not consider focusing all your energy on building the new and sort of let the old drift away with little thought energy devoted to it. Might be worth a try?