How many people do you know who look for love in a doctor’s office or in a prescription bottle? They probably got the message when they were a small child that you get a lot of attention and love when you’re sick. How about the person who looks for love as the rebel? Or, the perpetual child? Or, the warrior – can’t you just see him or her standing in the middle of the floor, stomping their foot as a three year old? They got attention, which to a child equals love.
Some people are over achievers, Type A personalities, always trying. That was me for many years. I got the message when I was young that I had to try to be good enough, to get attention or love. I was rewarded with praise when I did something adult-like. Otherwise, I was sort of just there. So, I worked and worked and worked and tried and tried and tried. I finally saw my pattern a few years back. No more trying for me – or, at least, that’s my intention – old programs die hard.
The thing is we don’t have to look for love at all. We are love! Deepak Chopra and Ram Dass have both said we are all God in drag. God, the Divine, Source, the Universe, the Field – in drag – dressed as one role – human in this material world – while actually being another – Spirit.
Can you see you are love? Or, are you still looking for love in all the wrong places?
Some words from Ram Dass to help us on our way:
“As you dissolve into love, your ego fades. You’re not thinking about loving; you’re just being love, radiating like the sun.”