Space_Nebula_Nebula_Orange_Blue_Stars_42567_detail_thumb[1]We are out of balance – women and men. Somewhere along the way we lost the feminine side of our natures. Or, if not lost, at least repressed – unacknowledged – unlived.

With the advent of christianity somewhere around 2,000 years ago the feminine side of our nature began a slow decline. One god – male – with a son. Eventually, Mary was invited to the party – sort of. Did you realize christianity was the first major religion centered around one god?   Prior to that time most cultures honored many goddesses/gods – most of them connected to the natural world in some way. The feminine and the masculine sides of us were reflected in our gods and goddesses.

Women and feminine energy were further repressed during the catholic church’s Inquisition where women were burned at the stake as witches. A close look at the history of The Burning Times is shocking and sickening. The church clearly had a brutal campaign to further discredit women and the feminine energy of both sexes. To this day women are not represented in the church in any meaningful way at all. A church out of balance – no feminine energy at the uppermost levels to influence doctrine.

Many cultures around the world still openly oppress women and devalue them. More imbalance. Even here in the West, women are not represented equally in the upper most positions in our society.  Sexual harassment of women is a frequent news item these days.

This is not a post about equality for women. My point is as a global people, we are out of balance – all of us – men and women.

Recently many have described our world as a flatland, wasteland, and barren. It is felt the Earth herself is dying. We no longer hear the voice of the feminine and it is our own spiritual selves – men and women – that are impoverished.

The wisdom of the feminine teaches us the unity of all life, including the sacredness of the body and the Earth. It embraces the interconnectedness of all living beings and honors the natural cycles of life and death. Inclusive, intuitive and receptive. The opposite of the drive to conquer and control, preferring rather to dance to the flowing music of the Great Mystery.

The Age of Aquarius – the age of the common man and woman. Maybe it’s time we begin listening to our own inner knowing – to realize it’s time to heal the split between masculine and feminine, ego and spirt in ourselves. Healing and change begins with each of us – inside – one at a time – restoring balance to our world.


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Make the World Go Away

tumblr_n9pr7nk4EC1sknuc2o2_1280[1]Did you ever stop to wonder why we want to make the world go away at times? It all just seems too much. All of our coping skills go on vacation for a while and we feel stranded, raw, alone, unloved. It’s as though all our internal demons are front and center at once.

Emotional stress.   Somehow we feel as though we aren’t enough. Or, we have made a terrible mistake – guilt creeps in. Maybe we feel like an imposter in our own life – if they only knew who I really am. Maybe we are living in new territory – pushing ourselves – maybe too far. Sometimes we live in the past and endlessly trace out every decision, beating ourselves up for the “wrong” ones. Or, conversely, we live in the future and worry about what’s to come. Trying – a key word if we are looking for causes of stress in our lives – endlessly trying. I’m sure you can add many other areas of stress from your own life.

So, we hit a wall and want to make the world go away.  Lots of ways to make the world go away. Sleep. Watching TV, reading or just generally checking out in some way. Sex works, sometimes. Exercise. Drugs, legal or illegal. Alcohol. Shopping. You get the idea. Checking out for a while occasionally is OK. It’s when checking out replaces coping with our life that we can begin to get into trouble. Here is where addictions are born.

What if we simply realize we are unique, beautiful, and wonderful just as we are? Sometimes we are brilliant and sometimes we aren’t. Some choices serve us well and some don’t. The future hasn’t happened yet – no way for us to know what life will bring. At times we walk in the light and at times in the dark. We are humans – not some programmed cyborg always doing everything “right”.

I wonder how our lives would change if we simply accepted our humanity and the humanity of each other?


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First Love

imagesDOJAIOFAYour first love is – you.  So many of us skipped this step as we grew from children to adults.  If we were lucky, our parents loved us and we felt their love.  If we were not lucky, we didn’t feel parental love.   Either way.  Here we are.  Now.  This moment.  Do you love you?

Have you ever taken the time to go inside and get to know who you really are?  Not your ego self – the self you have constructed in order to be socially cool.  Or maybe you felt over the years who you really are is flawed in some way.  So, you began playing a role – like an actor or actress in a play.  Nothing wrong with that.  We all have our roles we play in life.  The real problem arises if you have forgotten who you really are inside.

Our true self is nothing but love – no need to look for it outside ourselves.  Once we discover our true essence, we radiate love.  It’s like sunlight on a cloudless day.  It shines through us.

So, how can you tell if you truly love yourself?  Try asking yourself these questions:  If I really love myself would I make this choice?  Would I be with this person?  Would I put this in my body?  Would I spend my time in this way?  Would I hold these beliefs?  Would I talk to myself in this way?  You get the idea!

“Being” in Love.  You are the “Being.”


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The Unknown

“One is never afraid of the unknown; one is afraid of the known coming to an end.” – Krishnamurti (1895 – 1986)

Doesn’t this teaching by Krishnamurti put a whole new twist on things? First, it helps us see – we tend to be afraid of the known ending – more than we are afraid of the unknown. Sounds obvious. But, is it?

We all age. Some of us want to hang onto a previous age – a known. The weird thing is it isn’t even real anymore. Why do we resist moving into the unknown of the age we are? Why do we feel a compulsion to hang onto youth – why do we resist the unknown of each year as it passes and we grow older? It sort of turns the whole present moment awareness thing upside down. How can I live in the present moment if I’m afraid to be the age I am – if I’m afraid to let go of who I was?

Ken Wilbur teaches we transcend our old selves and yet include them in who we are at any given moment. I agree with him. Who I am today is the totality of all I’ve been, learned and experienced – in this lifetime and maybe in many lifetimes. In this post I’m discussing more your conscious identity – who you believe you are today – are you hanging onto an aspect of you from a past time and living your life solely from that identity?

You may say, “I’m not afraid to be the age I am!” Really look – how much of the past do you hold on to? And, conversely, how much of today do you embrace?

Is it time for Daddy or Momma’s darling to grow up? Is it time for the party girl to hang up her dress? Is it time to embrace the idea of true, intimate love rather than just sex? Is it time for the student to go to work? Is it time to retire and give up your identity as a wage earner? Is it time to hand back to your parents their life and live your own? I could go on. You get the idea. Living in the past – the known – has many, many faces.

So, what’s the big deal? You live in the past and you like it there. The big deal is you are never truly alive. Never engaging life fully. I’m back to Joseph Campbell and the heroine/hero’s journey. Before you can go anyplace you must leave home. You must have the courage for the known to end and to step into the unknown.


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Courage or Fear?

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” – Anais Nin

The definition of courage is “the ability to do something that frightens one. . . strength in the face of pain or grief.” Pretty straight forward. Lots of times where it gets interesting is to find our courage to say what we feel to the person we love the most.

Even before that. Sometimes we don’t know how we feel because we are too afraid to check in and ask ourselves some difficult questions. Do we have the courage to ask ourselves the tough questions and open our minds and hearts enough to hear the honest answers coming from our deepest being? This is the kind of courage Anais Nin is talking about in the above quote.

Fear. What most of us fear the most is change – real change. If I’m in a relationship that is not nourishing, can I hear my own soul begging for change? If my job is sucking the life out of me, why am I staying? If I have lifestyle habits that are not in my highest good, can I hear my body screaming for change? Look around in your own life. Honestly ask yourself if change is needed.

Lots of time we feel courageous when we are angry. You let someone else have it. They aren’t going to treat you that way. Psychology tells us anger almost always sits on top of fear. If you find yourself often angry, you might want to find your true courage and ask yourself why you are so frightened.   For many of us the fear of not being loved or being abandoned is at the very root of all that anger.

Here in the US our current president seems to me to be a very angry man. Whenever I hear one of his tirades, it reminds me of how very afraid he must be. I don’t share his worldview or his positions on just about anything. However, when I can see the frightened man inside I, at least, can find genuine compassion in my heart for him.

So, back to the quote above. Is your life expanding or contracting? Is courage or fear the driving force in your life?


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What Energy Are You Adding To The World Today?

images[11] (2)“We are all affecting the world every moment, whether we mean to or not. Our actions and states of mind matter, because we are so deeply interconnected with one another.” — Ram Dass

Did you ever stop to think that everything you do, say, feel, think is affecting the entire universe?  And, all people from all ages everywhere and everywhen likewise have and will affect the whole.

We hear the words – we are one.  We all exist in the same field – and, that field has existed since the beginning – whenever that was.  The vibration of the field or the character of the field is determined by our states of mind, our actions, and our feelings.  It is a composite of the energy of all beings across all times.  A sort of repository.  If I am angry – the vibration in the field is altered – minutely – altered.  If I am filled with love – the vibration is also altered.

There have been many scientific studies showing when a new skill is learned by an animal on one side of the globe, the skill will spontaneously be expressed by animals of the same species on the other side of the world.  Scientists believe this may happen due to organizing fields that have an inherent memory.  This idea – morphic fields – was first proposed several years ago.  It is theorized there may be some sort of collective memory specific to each species.  Sound familiar?

Carl Jung put forth the theory of the collective unconscious. The theory, in part, states we may have some communion with some divine or world mind.  The collective unconscious may be a body of unconscious energy that lives forever.

Edgar Cayce, a modern prophet, spoke of the one mind.  He said there is one mind and we all share it.  Our individual, personal conscious mind is a part of the one mind. Today we might say the transpersonal mind – the mind has a life beyond what appears in individual persons.  It is a reality in itself.

Air is transpersonal.  You have your air and I have mine.  And yet, air is everywhere.  One large body of air we all share.  Air quality these days is a big topic of discussion.  There is only one air – there is only one mind.  Energy quality in the mind may be comparable to air quality?

Rupert Sheldrake has developed a theory of morphic resonance.  He presents a vision of transpersonal reality of mind similar to Cayce’s perspective.  The more people that are able to conceive of an idea – the easier it becomes for others to have the same idea.  Data collected from 1918 to 1989 showed that IQ scores in the US have been rising for decades by 30% or more.  Scientists have put forth many ideas about why this is happening.  Maybe it’s the field – the one mind – morphic fields?

Imagine your brain as a TV set.  Imagine the broadcast airwaves to be the one mind or energy in the morphic field.  Ideas are vibrational patterns in those waves.  Your brain tunes into ideas that are in the air. The one mind is a reality in itself independent of your brain or body.

Now, mainstream science still doesn’t get it.  That doesn’t mean the new theories are wrong.  They simply haven’t gained enough energy in the field quite yet.  You see?  We each change the field every second.

Do you want world peace, as I do?  Ask yourself whether your actions, words, feelings and thoughts are peaceful or not?  What energy or information are you adding to the field every day?  How are you affecting the world?


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The Gods of Change

images[1] (4)The Gods of Change


Howard Sasportas

“Your pain is but the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” – Kahlil Gibran

This book is about pain, crisis and the transits of Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. – the outer or transpersonal planets. Most of the book is an in depth guide to understanding each of these planets as they relate to the birth chart – intended for those studying astrology in depth.  I felt some of the “big” ideas were worth sharing.  Here they are.

It all depends on our point of view. Do we see change as danger or an opportunity?  Can we reorient ourselves in times of crisis to see those times as turning points in our lives?  We are evolving – something new is attempting to arise.  Can we let go of the old and change?  Can we see while something is dying, something new is being born?  The old may be taken away and something new given.

The natal birth chart reveals the “seed” of who we may become – our potentiality. It can be viewed as a map or guide giving us some idea of what our core self or soul has in mind for us.  It is sort of like looking at the picture on the front of a seed packet – you can see from the picture what the seed will grow into and become.  Your birth chart is more a symbol of your intentions in this lifetime – not a record of what is going to happen to you.

Each of us is in a continual process of unfolding, of growing into our full potential. Sometimes that growth can be painful.

We really can’t avoid pain, crisis and change. We can shift our perspective and attempt to understand how to use these periods creatively.  How do we cooperate or co-create with the energies at play in our lives?  If we are fully alive, we understand and accept both light and dark, joy and pain.

From the perspective of astrology major changes in our lives are usually ushered in by transits from Saturn, Chiron, Uranus, Neptune or Pluto. Or a combination of these planets. These planets are thought to be responsible for our growth – they don’t leave us the way they found us.

Dane Rudhyar wrote that “it is not the event which happens to the person, but the person which happens to the event. An individual meets particular events because he needs them in order to become more fully what he is only potentially.”  So, if we believe crisis is only something terrible and our main goal is somehow to turn back the clock and get rid of it as quickly as possible, we are likely to stay caught in the crisis for a longer period of time.  On the other hand, if we see it as an opportunity for something new to be born, we find meaning in the midst of pain.

Once the crisis is accepted we may come to see it as a part of our growth and unfoldment. Bitter tears turn into the salt of wisdom.  Acceptance allows the magic in life to work.

And, we have grown.


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Blessings and Curses

Beliefs. Isn’t it amazing that our core beliefs – which color the way we see the world around us and everything in it – are the true genesis for most of what we consider to be our blessings and curses?

Am I blessed or cursed? What day is it? Who just pissed me off? Who just said something complimentary – a little love coming my way? Who is ignoring me? Who is smothering me? Whose expectations are way to high – their own codependent self searching for a target? Life. I’m sure you can add your own experiences to the list.

The point is no matter what is happening out there in the world, no matter what other people or life is bringing us, it is all filtered through our own beliefs.

Do you love yourself? Look into the mirror, look into your own eyes – say with honest, true feeling “I love you. You are an amazing person.” How does that feel? Does it feel true or false? Can you even do it? That simple little exercise will give you a lot of information concerning your beliefs about yourself, relationship and love.

If that was difficult or felt false, then you may feel cursed in relationships. You can only feel the love others are giving you to the exact measure you genuinely love and accept yourself. Healing, therapy, maturity and wisdom have a lot to do with learning self-acceptance and self-love.

Conversely, if you believe you are a good person and really love and like yourself, then you will likely feel blessed by others in the world around you. And, you will probably surround yourself with people who are nourishing to you. When a person comes into your life who doesn’t love themselves, sparks are likely to fly. You are living in two different worlds from a basic beliefs perspective.   They will always feel cursed and you will always feel blessed.

Can you help them? No. Only they can help them. You can suggest a good therapist or other wise person. The hard work of learning to love themselves is theirs alone.

Here I’ve used self-love and relationships as an example of how our basic beliefs color our world. Some other areas you might want to explore: Do you live in an abundant world or a scarce one? Do you feel the world is a safe or a frightening place? Do you feel the boss is fair or unfair? When life brings you difficulty, are you a victim or a powerful, problem solving person? Do you live in love or fear?

Blessings and curses – it often depends on what we expect based on our core beliefs.


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Jumping Off Cliffs

images5G6ZHG81“We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” – Kurt Vonnegut

Creativity isn’t just for artists! We each create our lives.  A good friend recently gave me a sign that says:  “Life isn’t about finding yourself.  Life is about creating yourself.”  How very true!

Creating ourselves begins with dreaming and imagination. What new do I want to create in my life – what will bring me joy, happiness, peace?  How do I make room for the new?  Consider taking some time – dream – its fun.

I think Kurt Vonnegut is right – creating is about “continually jumping off cliffs.” What are the cliffs in your own life?  What do you in your heart of hearts want to do and yet are not doing?  Where are you perched on a cliff  and afraid to jump?  Once you have discovered those things, now its decision time.  To jump or not!

Here is where trust comes in. And, having the courage to trust. It can be incredibly difficult for we humans to trust in life.  Trust our hearts and souls to know.  Trust our own inner guidance.  Trust our own intuition.  Trust we will be “developing our wings on the way down.”  Trust in a safe landing in a new, happy, peaceful, joyful place.

For a little encouragement, here are Martha Graham’s thoughts: “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost.”


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Love Is A State of Being

imagesTTD5SGTH“Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form.” – Eckhart Tolle

Love as a noun – I am love! Very different from love as a verb – I love you, you love me.  Both are great.  Love as a noun – I am love – is what Tolle is talking about in the above quote.

Actually, I think until we each realize we are love – it might be difficult to truly love another.  Most of the philosophical teachings over time have taught this in some form.  I’ve heard it described as your “ground of being”.  “God is love” was the mantra of the ’60s.  Some people feel enlightenment is the realization you are love.  Right now.  Nothing to do.

Another’s love can be withdrawn. The love we are is always with us – supporting, holding and guiding us.  Once we discover this foundation within, the winds of change here in this material world tend to pass on by.  We know, at our core, we are fine and will live to shine another day.

I wonder why it is difficult for us to realize we are love – god, source, the universal energy – pick your favorite word – manifesting on this beautiful planet – bringing our own uniqueness to the human community?

I conclude with my favorite poet, Rumi: “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you built against it.”


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